Five ways to overcome negative thinking

Have you ever felt trapped in your own mind? Did you ever feel like your self-doubt is holding you back?

You messed up, things didn’t go like you planned and you feel haunted by back luck. It happened. Get over it. Being aware of your deficits is important, constantly thinking about them is not. There are two main reasons why you need to get over it. First of all, the past and the future are illusions. The only thing that actually exists is the present. You only have 24 hours each day, and you don’t know if you will be a part of the future. The only thing you know for certain is that as long as you are breathing, you are alive. You can only take action in the present. If you are only thinking about the past or worrying about what is coming, instead of taking action, there is no time left for you to design a better present for your future self. Taking action is the key to success. If you are constantly thinking about something that already happened or may happen in the future, you are not working on the steps that will lead to your success.

Quitting after having a bad time is like selling at the bottom. If you give up after a few rough weeks, you didn’t get the concept of probability. If you go to a roulette table at the casino and bet on black ten times, there is a 51 percent chance that you will lose on your first try. Assuming you lose ten times, it becomes more and more likely that the next result will be black since the chances for red are only 49 percent.

As observers, we are personally involved with the creation of our own reality. Physicists are being forced to admit that the universe is a “mental” construction. Pioneering physicist Sir James Jeans wrote:

If you don’t learn to be happy, you never will be. Gratitude is one of the hardest concepts of humankind. Happiness comes from within — and many people learn this the hard way. Sure, you get a dopamine rush after achieving a goal, maybe you always wanted to be able to afford a Porsche and when it happens for the first time it’s great, but it’s human nature to get used to it.

That’s the moment when you ask yourself: “What’s next?”

There is nothing besides yourself that can make you sustainably happy. Widespread misconceptions about gratitude lead to false assumptions, so you think you will feel grateful after getting something that you wanted in life.
Even if you earned it through hard work, you will never feel gratified by external things. Gratitude is a skill if you don’t learn to be grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be grateful for more?

You get lucky and you get unlucky — that’s just how life goes. If you accept this premise, you have two options:

You can either decide to just celebrate your successes and brood over your failures or you can celebrate your failures and your successes, making the worst case scenario in your life a party. Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not talking about doing stupid things or making stupid mistakes on purpose. I am also not saying that you should be proud of your failures.

What I am saying is that you should give it your all. Give it your best, work hard and celebrate yourself for that, even if it doesn’t work out. Bad luck is temporary and you will be lucky again, that’s the law of nature. If you are constantly improving yourself and putting in the hard work, there is no way that you will remain unlucky forever.

Having said that, ultimately the journey has to be the goal. Sacrificing your time in the present for a potentially better future is not the solution. Don’t sacrifice your present for a better future, because time only moves forward and at some point, your time will be used up. Find a way to preserve your happy present in the future.

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