Becoming My Own Best Friend

It’s not that hard if you have a good teacher

A best friend is someone who has your back no matter what. A person who you are in sync with, who gets you. I believe there is a soul connection there because he or she is in tune with how you think and react to people and situations.

Here’s why I believe these things to be the truth — my best friend and I have been in each other’s lives for well over forty years. We go way back, I mean way back, to our grammar school days; we met in the sixth grade. I’ll never forget our first encounter — she originated from Bronx, NY, and came to our small town in northern NJ with a swag, hip talk, and the love for music. That woman still loves to dance.

One particular day during recess, one of the students had a radio blasting on the school playground, and we were all dancing our hearts out until my best friend, then a stranger, started doing the click-clack! The dance was kind of awkward, it was like you’re doing jumping jacks sideways but moving your arms outward without clapping your hands to the beat of the music.

Yup, the click-clack — that was the name of the dance; all the kids were in awe. I immediately started babbling at the mouth, and questions were flying out at a rapid speed about the nature of that dance. It was so cool! She was so calm, relaxed, and laid back, as she gave us the history of the dance which originated in the Bronx.

Hence to say we became instant friends and throughout our journey through life, became the best of friends, going through the good times, hardships and despair, while loving each other unconditionally.

The Challenge

Not too long ago, an acquaintance of mine and I was sitting around sipping tea and chit-chatting about spirituality. During the conversation, she asked if I trust my inner voice, was I my own best friend. I had to think about that for a moment because it never crossed my mind. However, she challenged me to do some exploring and see if I could attest to being my own best friend. I am always up for a challenge, so of course, I agreed. We decided to revisit the topic the following weekend.

After pondering the topic further, I began to think about my relationship with my best friend, what made it so special, and why did…

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